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Welcoming this globetrotting gal, meet this week's #wingwoman, Famida Tejani! Famida was born in London, England, but spent most of her childhood in Canada. She's always had a desire to travel and recently experienced life as an expat in the Netherlands. Famida is fueled by her desire to contribute, which led to her creating Four Leaf Ventures Inc, an e-commerce business here in Calgary. In our interview, Famida shares how the daily little blessings add up to her inner joy, how she is passionate about giving back to vulnerable communities, and how it's important to have compassion for yourself and for other people when it comes to friendship. Continue reading to learn all about Famida!

1. What makes you happy?


I am my most happiest when I’m out in nature, basking in the sun, drinking great coffee and connecting with loved ones, whether it’s friends or family! For me it’s pretty simple to find happiness because I’ve come to realize it’s the daily little blessings that add up to my inner joy. For instance, hearing the birds sing first thing in the morning or witnessing my children being in the moment, and saying the most profound statements. This brings me happiness!


2. What advice would you give your younger self?


RELAX!!! It’s all gonna work out. Everything will fall into place as it’s suppose to and at the right time. As long as your intention is good and you are true to yourself, don’t fret it. Take a moment, center yourself and let go! Now I realize that all the endless worrying or sleepless nights, didn’t get me anywhere anyways.

3. If you could magically solve one problem in the world, what would that be?


To ensure that every child and adult have enough food to eat on a daily basis. To wake up each day and have the choice to eat a meal and not have to worry about how much they can consume, is a major blessing that most of us take for granted. Millions in our world live with malnourishment today and I wish I could solve that problem or contribute to the solution in a large capacity.


4. How did you find your purpose?


By asking myself how I could contribute to the world. Through the practice of inner stillness, and self reflection I began listening more closely to my intentions. I think my purpose is always related to service in some capacity. It evolves and it speaks to me stronger during some phases of life than others. My intention when I started Four Leaf Ventures was to contribute. Not just to sell a product in need, but also to give back on a larger scale to make a difference in the lives of some of the most vulnerable communities our children live in. So my journey began....when I couldn’t find what I was looking for, for my own children, I sourced high quality disposable face masks and brought them here locally. I knew there would be other parents just like me that needed them; as well as, various schools, health clinics, etc. For each sale, I donated to a local charity and to date, Four Leaf Ventures has donated approximately 10K masks to kids in need. That was my purpose - to contribute in a higher capacity during the Covid-19 pandemic and for that, I’m grateful.


5. What is your biggest pain point in building relationships?


I would not say I have a pain point in building relationships. Through awareness of my own feelings, I recognize where I am at, in the relationship. I accept it for what it is. I find when I just put my best foot forward and hold good intention for all, and a relationship does not build well, it just means we were to teach each other something valuable and I move forward happily!


6. What have you learned from past friendships that didn't work out?


Acceptance. By that I mean, in my younger years, I use to hold on too tight to an ideal version of the friendship or expectation I had of a friend, but what I learned is to accept the other where they are and accept yourself where you are. This is compassion. I also learned that every friendship whether we remained friends or not, provided me with a valuable teaching that was meant for me to learn and embrace moving forward. So to learn it and keep going!


7. Who are your SHEros (AKA female heroes)?


My SHEro is my cousin. More like a sister to me! We have the gift of sharing the same first name, ironically. Throughout my life, she has always inspired me to do better, learn more and grow exponentially! She always says learning is everything. The more you learn, the more you grow in all of life's experiences. Learn the lessons, read the books, listen to the podcasts, invest in yourself because if you don't, nobody else will. She also says "dream big!" I can't say enough about how her strength, confidence, resilience and passion has shaped the way I see life's many adventures.


8. What podcasts/books are you listening/reading right now?


Currently, I am reading Reinvention by Arlene Dickinson. I highly recommend it for anyone who's looking to create, re-create and really change life up for the better.


9. Where can we find you?


You can find me on Instagram, Facebook, Website: @fourleafventures, @fem_tejani, www.fourleafventures.ca

Taking center stage for our #wingwoman of the week is Meg McDougall! Meg is the co-founder of Mindset On Mobility, which provides courses on mindfulness, exercise, performance and sport psychology. Meg has competed on the world stage, has a graduate degree in Mental Performance, and is also an active serving member of the Canadian Armed Forces. In our interview, Meg shares how she believes action is needed to achieve any dream, how wearing a lot of different hats led her to her purpose, and how it's important to remember that we are all trying to figure out life and find our place in this world. Continue reading to learn all about Meg!

1. What makes you happy?


I would love to say that I AM happy - that is an internal state that I can create and therefor I don’t rely on anything to bring me that happiness. But, alas, I’m a work in progress, so I’ll say that being with my family (dog included) makes me the happiest and most at peace.


2. What advice would you give your younger self?


I would say to myself: You have everything it takes to reach your dreams, but you can’t just think about it, you need to take action. It’s not just going to happen because you want it to, you need to put in the work. Believe in yourself because you are so much more powerful than you know. These will be some of the most formative years of your life and you CAN be everything you want. But believe in yourself. And for goodness sake, give mom and dad a break – they are doing the best they can.

3. If you could magically solve one problem in the world, what would that be?


Oh my. This is a tough one. Unfortunately, there are so many problems that need to be solved. I would say, that if we could somehow offer all women around the world an education, we would see a LOT of the problems start to disappear. Not immediately, but over time. Educating women (which would include reconciling the unequal power dynamics) has been projected to assist with: climate change, stimulating local economies and economic growth, breaking poverty cycles, reducing childhood pregnancy, not to mention giving more women the opportunity to take on leadership positions in all industries. The list goes on and on. But, I think if we could somehow educate women, we would magically solve a lot of problems and change the world for the better.


4. How did you find your purpose?


I recognized my purpose from trying out and wearing a lot of different hats. I went out and experienced my life. I failed a lot. I tried new things, I traveled, I moved to new places, met new people, learned to be comfortable in my own company. And then one day, I looked back and realized that all my experiences had been leading me up to this moment.


5. What is your biggest pain point in building relationships?


My inner-story is that I’m “not good enough”. So, I have a protection mechanism, I will meet new people and then I shut them out before they have the opportunity to SEE me and realize I’m a big fraud (at least that’s what I will tell myself). I will push people away in the hopes of protecting my own ego.


6. What have you learned from past friendships that didn't work out?


I have many regrets over friendships that didn’t work out. I really think it was my fault for the most part – mostly because of the reasons listed above and probably my own insecurities and immaturities. I would hope that I’ve learned that we are all just stumbling through this life doing the best we can and not every action someone else does is because of me personally (and vice versa). While we think we are the center of the universe (lol), our friends are just trying to figure things out like us.


7. Who are your SHEros (AKA female heroes)?


I would have to say my mom and my sisters, my friends Patti and Danielle. But outside of the obvious friends and family - there are two ladies that come to mind. A lady that I work with (Carol) - she is incredibly intelligent, confident, level headed and caring; she is a military officer and exemplifies everything that an officer should be. And Gina, owner of Restorative Sports Therapy in Okotoks – she is so gifted when it comes to empowering others, leading from the front and being an overall inspiring individual.


8. What podcasts/books are you listening/reading right now?


Some of my go-tos are: Armchair Expert, The Rich Roll Podcast, Finding Mastery, No Stupid Questions, and Conan O’Brien Needs a Friend (which is SOOO funny – I find myself laughing out loud when I listen to it – I’ve been brought to tears I’ve laughed so hard – highly recommend that one). I also love myself some podcast journalism – Lost Hills is my most recent, but I loved the Serial Podcast and event Revisionist History every now and then.


9. Where can we find you?


You can find me on IG at: @megsmcd and my business @mindsetonmobility

My business on FB: Mindset on Mobility

And on the web at: www.mindsetonmobility.com

Here comes the sun, little darling, and here comes another wing woman - meet Anshu Stephen! Anshu's name in Hindi means "ray of light," which her personality totally embodies. She has worked in the coaching space since 2012, and she is a certified trauma-informed coach providing strength-based and solution-focused coaching in English, Hindi and Urdu for Women, LGBTQ2+ and for individuals on the Autism spectrum. She is also a certified TESOL instructor. In our interview, Anshu shares how she loves traveling and exploring other cultures, how she is building a space to provide awareness and healing from trauma, and how the women in her life remind her of her strength and help her fight off doubt. Continue reading to learn all about Anshu!


1. What makes you happy?


Sunshine, combined with homemade chicken curry and fluffy basmati rice, is one of my favorite happy places. I am thankful to have quite a few experiences that bring joy for my whole being- another one is being able to travel and explore other cultures with my best friend who loves me at my overwhelmed, thriving and growing self.


2. What advice would you give your younger self?


I talk to my younger self quite often and remind her that she is enough and unconditionally loved just the way she is. I tell her that, to feel strongly, is her strength.

3. If you could magically solve one problem in the world, what would that be?


I would want to be a part of a world that represents and celebrates gender equality with intersectionality in institutions, economics, and everyday interactions. I can see it all trickle down to eradicate discrimination, poverty, and privilege. And create safety, freedom and empowered rights for all individuals to contribute and flourish on their terms.


4. How did you find your purpose?


I knew my purpose very early on; it was to learn about and support people with their challenges. I followed this call through University with my Behavioral Science degree and loved walking alongside powerful resilient stories in my nine years of human services work. And then there came a day I felt defeated when my employer refused to invest back in me- so I grew out of it eager to start investing in myself. I started to build a space, combining my education and my tools from my experiences as a trauma survivor, to provide awareness and healing from a trauma informed lens in our community.


5. What is your biggest pain point in building relationships?


Unspoken expectations can really get in the way of thriving relationships. I think it's so important to ask questions to clarify and confirm what the other person is saying before assumptions solidify. I think we often are listening to ourselves while in conversations with others and that doesn’t allow for genuine and equal relationships.


6. What have you learned from past friendships that didn't work out?


I have learned to be a better listener, to put my expectations aside and just ask how can I be here for you! I have also learned to ask for support when I need it and allow others to lift me up as well and not carry it all on my own.


7. Who are your SHEros (AKA female heroes)?


I have been blessed to have been surrounded by extraordinary women in all stages of my life.

My Dadi and Nani (Grandma’s) inspire me everyday to stay grounded in my roots, while my Mom encourages me to keep my eyes fixated on the path ahead; never looking back. I also have a mentor, Puja, who generously reminds me of my achievements to fight off any lingering doubts.


8. What podcasts/books are you listening/reading right now?


I just found Citylinereal podcast that sheds a light on racism in Canada.

I really enjoyed listening to “Born a Crime” by Trevor Noah early this year.

I also love listening back to the conversations I have with my soul sisters on our podcast- Soulsessions


9. Where can we find you?


www.fillyourjarcoaching.com

instagram.com/fillyourjar

facebook.com/fillyourjar

https://www.linkedin.com/in/anshu-stephen-35824974/