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If you've ever struggled to do a single pushup, you are not alone - this week's #wingwoman has been there and now inspires women everywhere to make small, sustainable changes in their daily lives - meet Tara Abel! Tara is the owner of Tara Abel Fitness; she is also a mom of 4 kids (yes, FOUR), a certified personal trainer, a pregnancy and postpartum coach, and a nutrition coach. Tara originally got into the fitness industry to inspire women who didn't align with the all-or-nothing mentality that most programs have and instead teach them how fitness can enhance their lives (and how to conquer those dang pushups). In our interview, Tara shares how she loves having honest, vulnerable conversations with women, how she knew she found her purpose when she could spend hours talking about that one thing, and how she strives to keep her circle of friends small. Continue reading to learn all about Tara!


1. What makes you happy?


Honestly, it’s the little things for me. Watching terrible reality tv shows and eating candy with my best friend, spending time with my family, Crossfit, home design, board games, seeing new places, and moments of quiet and alone time (with four kids, this is so rare!) I also absolutely love coaching and celebrating progress with my clients. Watching that moment where something clicks and seeing how much fitness can change their every day life and motherhood is powerful!


2. What advice would you give your younger self?


I would tell my younger self to not be held back by fear, uncertainty, or perfectionism; to do the hard thing and know that I can handle any outcome. I would also tell myself to base my choices on what I wanted or what I thought was right and not to worry about others’ expectations or opinions.

3. If you could magically solve one problem in the world, what would that be?


I would have to say understanding and treatment of trauma and mental illness, including increasing awareness of basic psychology and sociology. I truly think having basic understanding and tools in these departments is at the root of understanding and beginning to tackle the many important nuanced issues we face in society but on a personal level for all of us as well.


4. How did you find your purpose?


I don’t know if I believe in having just one purpose, but I can say with certainty that when I started to pursue the things that kept me up at night or that I realized I could talk passionately about for hours, how I spent my time started to feel meaningful to me.


In becoming a coach, I realized for myself what a gap there was between returning to fitness and life and the pregnancy and postpartum chapters. In seeing how difficult it was to find answers for myself, particularly when it came to issues such as diastasis recti and pelvic floor dysfunction (eg. prolapse, leaking, etc.), I realized that there needs to be so much more support for women to navigate this. I wanted to be that for them.


In having honest, vulnerable conversations with women, it also became apparent that often the fitness industry has a specific box it tries to fit women into. It didn’t see them as whole people and this wasn’t helpful at all for women achieving long-term success. This has led me to focus on making fitness practical and sustainable, while also sharing openly about where fitness intersects with things like postpartum anxiety and depression, body image, motherhood, and social issues women face.


5. What is your biggest pain point in building relationships?


I’m incredibly introverted and it takes a while for me to truly be close or comfortable with someone. Coming from a big family, I’ve learned how to manage really well in social situations so people wouldn’t suspect that I hardly leave my house and keep my circle small!


6. What have you learned from past friendships that didn't work out?


I’ve come to learn that people come in and out of your life and that people being in different stages at different times or just changing in general can really impact a friendship. Time is so limited, especially for moms, and if you aren’t excited to spend time with someone or you find a relationship stressful, you actually don’t have to keep those relationships up! Sometimes, respectfully moving forward without that friendship is the best choice to make for both of you and it can be freeing to let go.


7. Who are your SHEros (AKA female heroes)?


My mom. I honestly don’t know how my mom has been through as much as she has and admire the way she faces it all with determination, strength, and perseverance.


8. What podcasts/books are you listening/reading right now?


I just finished re-reading one of my absolute favourite books, The Glass Castle, and am reading The Body Keeps The Score and A Promised Land. I’m kind of all over the place but I love hearing and being inspired by people’s stories and also learning about why we humans are the way we are.


I listen to so, so many podcasts but I would have to say that lately I’ve been loving and keeping up with Armchair Expert, This American Life, and Judge John Hodgeman. For work related podcasts, To Birth and Beyond has a ton of great information for pregnancy and postpartum.


9. Where can we find you?


I’m on Instagram @taraabelfitness, on Facebook @taraabelfitness, and you can contact me through my website www.taraabel.com.

Kids and adults alike can struggle to process difficult emotions, and this is why this week's #wingwoman wrote a book about it - meet Amen Kaur! Amen's children's book, Dealing With My Feelings, is aimed to help kids (and their parents) with mindful strategies to deal with difficult emotions. Amen was born and raised in Calgary, and she is deeply passionate about cultivating emotional intelligence and parenting mindfully. In our interview, Amen shares how she believes learning is a superpower, how unconditional love is crucial for children, and how it's okay to set boundaries in friendships. Continue reading to learn all about Amen!


1. What makes you happy?


I feel the happiest when I’m creating, taking time out to do things I love and spending quality time with my son and husband. These things help keep me in the moment, it’s when I feel the most joy.


2. What advice would you give your younger self?


Ah there is so much I would want to say. For starters read more books (other than psychology)- learning is a superpower! Take care of yourself, invest in yourself- no one else is going to do it for you. Go take those martial arts classes. Keep working hard and doing what you love.

3. If you could magically solve one problem in the world, what would that be?


An end to childism. How amazing would this world be if all children were treated with respect, accepted for who they are and were encouraged to follow their own dreams, loved unconditionally. They would grow up to be incredible adults.


4. How did you find your purpose?


I haven’t found any one purpose. If anything, I enjoy connecting with my inner self through meditation, working on my inner healing and self-growth. From that space, wherever the journey takes me, I go.


5. What is your biggest pain point in building relationships?


I think my biggest pain point is being vulnerable. I don’t like to “burden” anyone with my concerns, so I’ve always been a better listener.


6. What have you learned from past friendships that didn't work out?


I think the most valuable lesson I’ve learned is it’s always okay to set boundaries in friendships. And with time, people evolve and the same friendship might look very different down the road, all types are okay.


7. Who are your SHEros (AKA female heroes)?


My mom is my biggest hero. She has modeled unconditional love for me and supported me throughout my life’s journey. I have some amazing friends who inspire me to do better.


8. What podcasts/books are you listening/reading right now?


I don’t listen to too many podcasts but my husband does and he is always sharing something with me about them. The last parenting book I finished was how to raise a boy, and currently- Own the Day, Own Your Life.


9. Where can we find you?


You can reach me through Instagram:

@amenkaur @mindfulgentlemama

or my website: www.amenkaurbooks.com (info@amenkaurbooks.com)

Jewelry is the exclamation point for any type of outfit, and this week's #wingwoman ensures this is the case - meet Robin Zubach! Robin is the owner and founder of Delaney Rose Jewelry, where she handcrafts beautiful and accessible pieces of jewelry that are meant to last the sands of time. These unique scripture inspired items are made with the highest quality and are the perfect items to pass down from one generation to the next. In our interview, Robin shares how important it is to be present in the moment and not stress about the future, how you must nurture relationships to see them grow, and how learning to value each other's differences can go a long way in building and maintaining friendships. Continue reading to learn all about Robin!



1. What makes you happy?


Spending quality time with the Lord and my family


2. What advice would you give your younger self?


Not to stress so much about the future, it’s all going to work out because God has a wonderful plan for your life. Even though it won’t always be easy, it will be well worth it.

3. If you could magically solve one problem in the world, what would that be?


That everyone would learn how to love your neighbour. I truly believe if we loved our neighbour as Jesus instructed us to do in Matthew 22:39, most - if not all of the worlds problems would be gone, hunger, war, abuse, poverty, human trafficking, etc.


4. How did you find your purpose?


Through scripture, two scriptures to be exact. John 10:10 “The thief comes only to steal, kill and destroy. I came that you may have and enjoy life and have it in abundance until it overflows” and the next scripture “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” Jeremiah 29:11

I had been Christian all my life, but it wasn’t until October 2018 (after hearing teachings on these verses) that I discovered the truth of who Jesus really is and was born again. And I realized that if I could go my whole entire life not really knowing these things about Jesus and God’s promises, then there were other women out there as well who probably have never heard this either. So my purpose is, through jewelry to share these truths with other women, to glorify God and to give back to those in need.


5. What is your biggest pain point in building relationships?


The time to build them well. With everything in life you need to spend time nurturing relationships to see them grow.


6. What have you learned from past friendships that didn't work out?


Yes I have had a few friendships that didn’t work and the one thing that I think was at the heart of them failing is not leaving space for differences of opinions. Not everyone is going to agree with your opinion (including your friends) and that is fine. Actually it is more than fine, because hearing and acknowledging your friends differences of opinions helps you grow and become more empathetic towards them and that view point. It doesn’t mean you all have to agree, but learning to value each other’s differences can go along way in building and maintaining friendships.


7. Who are your SHEros (AKA female heroes)?


Moms, Grandmas and Aunties. All these women have such important roles in raising and influencing children. I am so blessed that I have had many of these SHEros in my life who have helped me to become the women I am today.


8. What podcasts/books are you listening/reading right now?


Podcasts – Equip & Empower with Christine Caine, Eric Gilmour and The Ed Mylett Show, The Jasmine Star Show and You’re Welcome.

Books – The Bible


9. Where can we find you?


IG - @delaneyrosejewelry

FB – delaneyrosejewely

LinkedIn – Robin Zubach

Website – www.delaneyrosejewelry.com