If the Home Edit is your jam, then you don't want to miss this week's #wingwoman - everyone meet Stephanie The! Stephanie is an avid DIYer with a passion for interior design, decoration and organization. Along with raising her children and starting her own business, she's also a part of the production team at Studio Luma. In our interview, she shares how she believes she has meaningful impact when she treats others with kindness, how she wishes there was a better understanding surrounding mental illness, and how it's important to be around the people who accept you for who you are (quirks and weirdness included!). Continue reading to learn all about Stephanie!
1. What makes you happy?
For some instant and short-term happiness, I enjoy thrifting and the feeling I get when I finish a project. But the things that make me really happy are the relationships I have. Nothing makes me smile more than laughing with my husband, acting silly with my daughters, dining with my extended family (long overdue due to COVID!) and long conversations with my friends.
2. What advice would you give your younger self?
Just do it! I feel like I'm just recently stepping out of my comfort zone. I would tell my younger self to pursue whatever it is I want and not be afraid. You never know what you accomplish unless you take a chance and try.
3. If you could magically solve one problem in the world, what would that be?
I would change the understanding of mental illness. I choose this because I have dealt with it myself and know how devastating and difficult it can be. I also recently lost my cousin to the illness and miss him dearly. In the near future, I hope to be able to contribute in a meaningful way to the awareness, acceptance, and understanding of mental illness.
4. How did you find your purpose?
I could say that my purpose is to help people with my love of design and organization. This has come about from years of self-discovery and the opportunity to pursue my own business.
However, in the bigger picture, I feel like my purpose is to love those around me and treat them with kindness. I'm a big believer in "love your neighbour" and feel it's a way I can have a meaningful impact on those around me.
5. What is your biggest pain point in building relationships?
Oh gosh! For me, my biggest pain point is worrying about what other people think of me! I'm always concerned that I'm insulting someone in some way or form. I'm working on this by building up my confidence and accepting myself for who I am. All the quirks and weirdness included!
6. What have you learned from past friendships that didn't work out?
I'm lucky enough to have had the same four close friends since the beginning of time. Seriously! I've known one of them since age 3. I have met some people who I've naturally drifted away from over the years. I think what I've learned is that I'm not going to be able to keep in touch with everyone. At the same time, I've learned that there are some who I'll see only once a year and it'll feel like we saw each other yesterday. Both types of relationships are OK.
7. Who are your SHEros (AKA female heroes)?
My mom! My mom is awesome and I also consider her as one of my friends. Now that I'm a mother, I understand the sacrifices she had to make to raise me. She's always been there to support me, encourage me, and make me laugh. There are so many good things I could say about my mom!
I know that this is supposed to be about SHEros, but I have to give a shout out to my dad. He is also awesome and taught me that there is always a solution to a problem. He is probably the reason why I love DIYs.
8. What podcasts/books are you listening/reading right now?
I just finished listening to The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin. I just started Sex and Vanity by Kevin Kwan. While I don't listen to Podcasts on the regular, I do enjoy Under the Influence with Terry O'Reilly and The Debaters with Steve Patterson.
I don't know if this counts but every day before we go to bed my husband tells me about the podcasts he listened to that day. Usually, it's something from The Daily or Planet Money.
9. Where can we find you?
On Instagram, @steph.the, or my website: www.stephthe.com/connect/