As humans, we have a natural desire to be kind, and if we feel connected to a person or a cause, our kindness drive is intensified. To encourage the feeling of closeness, take time to reflect on a memory where you felt a strong connection to another person and write out the experience. Be descriptive. Remember how you felt in that moment. Why did it make you feel that way? What makes this memory of closeness so special?
This activity may take up to 10 minutes and can be practiced once per week. Try to reflect on a different memory each time. Some examples of memories to focus on for this task include: a meaningful conversation with someone, a time when you received or gave support, a moment when you experienced a great win (or loss) with another, etc. Once you decide on the memory, spend a few minutes writing about what happened. Be sure to expand on the feelings of connectedness and closeness to the other person in your shared experience.
Research has shown that the simple act of reflecting on past feelings of connectedness fosters compassion towards friends and even strangers. It can help us feel better about volunteering our time or even donating money to a cause. Helping others can be a simple act that could lead to more happiness and fulfillment in our own lives.