Here comes the sun, little darling, and here comes another wing woman - meet Anshu Stephen! Anshu's name in Hindi means "ray of light," which her personality totally embodies. She has worked in the coaching space since 2012, and she is a certified trauma-informed coach providing strength-based and solution-focused coaching in English, Hindi and Urdu for Women, LGBTQ2+ and for individuals on the Autism spectrum. She is also a certified TESOL instructor. In our interview, Anshu shares how she loves traveling and exploring other cultures, how she is building a space to provide awareness and healing from trauma, and how the women in her life remind her of her strength and help her fight off doubt. Continue reading to learn all about Anshu!
1. What makes you happy?
Sunshine, combined with homemade chicken curry and fluffy basmati rice, is one of my favorite happy places. I am thankful to have quite a few experiences that bring joy for my whole being- another one is being able to travel and explore other cultures with my best friend who loves me at my overwhelmed, thriving and growing self.
2. What advice would you give your younger self?
I talk to my younger self quite often and remind her that she is enough and unconditionally loved just the way she is. I tell her that, to feel strongly, is her strength.
3. If you could magically solve one problem in the world, what would that be?
I would want to be a part of a world that represents and celebrates gender equality with intersectionality in institutions, economics, and everyday interactions. I can see it all trickle down to eradicate discrimination, poverty, and privilege. And create safety, freedom and empowered rights for all individuals to contribute and flourish on their terms.
4. How did you find your purpose?
I knew my purpose very early on; it was to learn about and support people with their challenges. I followed this call through University with my Behavioral Science degree and loved walking alongside powerful resilient stories in my nine years of human services work. And then there came a day I felt defeated when my employer refused to invest back in me- so I grew out of it eager to start investing in myself. I started to build a space, combining my education and my tools from my experiences as a trauma survivor, to provide awareness and healing from a trauma informed lens in our community.
5. What is your biggest pain point in building relationships?
Unspoken expectations can really get in the way of thriving relationships. I think it's so important to ask questions to clarify and confirm what the other person is saying before assumptions solidify. I think we often are listening to ourselves while in conversations with others and that doesn’t allow for genuine and equal relationships.
6. What have you learned from past friendships that didn't work out?
I have learned to be a better listener, to put my expectations aside and just ask how can I be here for you! I have also learned to ask for support when I need it and allow others to lift me up as well and not carry it all on my own.
7. Who are your SHEros (AKA female heroes)?
I have been blessed to have been surrounded by extraordinary women in all stages of my life.
My Dadi and Nani (Grandma’s) inspire me everyday to stay grounded in my roots, while my Mom encourages me to keep my eyes fixated on the path ahead; never looking back. I also have a mentor, Puja, who generously reminds me of my achievements to fight off any lingering doubts.
8. What podcasts/books are you listening/reading right now?
I just found Citylinereal podcast that sheds a light on racism in Canada.
I really enjoyed listening to “Born a Crime” by Trevor Noah early this year.
I also love listening back to the conversations I have with my soul sisters on our podcast- Soulsessions
9. Where can we find you?