Wine, not - we've got another #wingwoman of the week, meet Nicole MacKay! Nicole is a wine writer, consultant, and a marketing specialist. She's a Spanish Wine Scholar and holds a Level 3 Certification from the Wine & Spirit Educational Trust. When she's not busy sipping and writing about wine, she is spending time with her 5-year-old twins. In our interview, Nicole shares how being present plays a big role in her day to day happiness, how she believes nurturing our family relationships is just as important as nurturing our friendships, and how it's important to appreciate the journey of becoming, as that's where all of our growth happens. Continue reading to learn all about Nicole!
1. What makes you happy?
Progress and my children. I realized a long time ago that I seek encouragement - simple things like a pat on the back or an ‘atto-girl’. But being a self-employed freelance writer, those moments are rare. So, I’ve taken to looking at a reply to an email as positivity. Or an approved pitch from a publication, which is huge! Without appreciating those moments, I would dwell on what else I could be doing to keep the wheel turning. And if I’m dwelling, then I’m not entirely present when it’s time to focus on my children. Being engaged with my children and knowing that I’m putting my focus into being a mom when it’s most important, and not thinking about work or ‘what-ifs’ is when I’m most happy and at peace.
2. What advice would you give your younger self?
To appreciate the journey. The end goal is instilled in us from a very early age when we get asked ‘what do you want to be when you grow up?’. It’s assuming that when you’ve reached a goal, you’ll be happy. But the journey to becoming whatever it is you want to be, is where we learn and grow and become who we are.
3. If you could magically solve one problem in the world, what would that be?
The relationship between government and our food industries. I’m no expert, but it seems pretty blatant that politicians are making money from the meat, dairy and fishing industries so that unethical and inhumane practices can continue. If that money was used for good, world hunger and water scarcity would not exist.
4. How did you find your purpose?
I’m still finding it! My goal was to always be a stay-at-home mom (which I am, to 5-year-old twins). But I’ve discovered that I need something for myself as well. For the past 5 years, I’ve used my wine industry experience and passion for writing to facilitate an income that provides freedom and flexibility for me to be there for my kids when they need me. Will I do this forever? Who knows! But it’s a purpose for right now, which is all I can ask for.
5. What is your biggest pain point in building relationships?
Insecurity. The ability to sell myself or my work has always been challenging. It’s something I continually struggle with.
6. What have you learned from past friendships that didn't work out?
I’ve had a lot of friendships just fizzle out, which I think is pretty normal. I’ve struggled with identifying the reason, but in the end, all friendships ebb and flow, grow or disappear. As long as I’m happy with my role and actions, then it’s ok to close the book on that friendship and move on. I’ve also learned that it’s equally as important to focus on family. Our sisters, cousins, and nieces are the people we have in our lives the longest. It’s important to nourish those relationships just as much as our friendships.
7. Who are your SHEros (AKA female heroes)?
My mom - hands down. She’s shown me strength and vulnerability. She’s also shown me when it’s ok to shine but also when it’s time to sit back and support those who need it.
8. What podcasts/books are you listening/reading right now?
The Four Winds is next on my to-read list for my book club. But Circe is the last book I read that I’d recommend. It was weird and unusual, but so beautifully written. I don’t have a ton of time for podcasts, but if I do turn one on, it’s usually Anna Faris’ Unqualified. She’s funny and human and has some pretty epic guests.
9. Where can we find you?
On Instagram @socialsips or my website, www.socialsips.ca